Ayesha Curry, Canadian-American actress, celebrity cook, cookbook author and television personality.
Ayesha Curry, the wife of NBA super star Stephen Curry, appears on Monday’s episode of Red Table Talk to give her insight on “Male Attention” which involved her personal insecurities while being a mother of three and a wife to Stephen Curry. Social media, literally, went crazy in regards to her comments on the matter.
Ayesha stated …
“Something that really bothers me, and honestly has given me a sense of a little bit of insecurity, is the fact that---yeah, there are all these women, like, throwing themselves (at him), but me, like the past 10 years, I don’t have any of that. I have zero---this sounds weird, but I like male attention , and so then I begin to internalize it, and I’m, like---is something wrong with me?” Ayesha then states that it’s not attention she wants but “it would be nice to know that, like, someone’s looking.”
“Social Media Gone Wild”
Ayesha shared what was on her heart in which social media has interpreted in many ways. Initially, men took a stance stating that her comments were bizarre and some women were coming to her defense by agreeing with her comments. It has gone as far as stating that Ayesha is seeking male attention outside her marriage to validate her looks on down to saying that she was in a vulnerable state and just expressing how she felt. So many opinions on whether she was right or wrong. Tweets and memes from fans were literally increasing by the minute!
So, was Ayesha really wrong for speaking how she felt? All of the fame and accolades that comes with her position in life places her on a high platform, but she is still a human being with real emotions, thoughts and opinions. No woman should neither suppress nor compress her feelings and emotions to any capacity, whether she's a celebrity figure or not. However, Ayesha laid it out on the table and spoke her truth unapologetically.
“A lion doesn’t apologize for its roar, so she doesn’t have to apologize for her power”
Regardless of the ridicule, Ayesha took a stance that some women aren’t willing to take. But can we blame them? When you look at all the pandemonium of negative opinions verses positive, it’s obvious why some wouldn’t go the distance in speaking their truth. Many women are silent because of being misunderstood and then put to shame for feeling the way they feel internally. If any woman bears truth and honesty, then she’s already beautiful and powerful.
No more masked insecurity, but more brave vulnerability”
There are many women with all sorts of insecurities and it’s okay! We all have them; some are just experts at dealing with them or even hiding them. Ladies and even gentlemen, there’s NOTHING wrong with speaking how you feel as Ayesha did. She is not wrong for speaking her mind. Matter fact, she has taken a tremendous step in dealing with her personal insecurities by talking about them in which a lot of men have a hard time in doing. Men internalize a lot of pain in the name of “being a man about it” or even being unaccepted verses opening up and talking about it to release the negative tension. The same energy that we men feel a need to stay silent because of being afraid of others opinion, should respect the people that aren’t afraid to do so as Ayesha did. I hope women who are dealing with similar insecurities as Ayesha follow her bold stance and continue to speak up unapologetically. The crown a woman wears isn’t just to be recognized as something she wears on her head, but also in her soul.
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