Check Yourself

Maintaining a good attitude when bad things are happening can be very challenging. That is why it is very important that we all check ourselves daily. Checking our emotions, actions, intentions, behavior, and most importantly our words are extremely vital.  When we purposefully take the time to exercise self-control we yield more positive favorable results than negativity, lashing out, complaining or giving up.  

Although life's changes and challenges are inevitable one's attitude and actions towards others and situations should reflect the light of Christ.  

Everyone experiences unforgettable turning points in their lives. Some of those very unforgettable experiences happen unexpectedly but individuals have the responsibility to maintain self-control in the midst of personal distresses.

Implementing God-honoring self-control while leading others towards God-honoring success when the wrong things are happening is a skill that is learned overtime by continually checking ourselves in prayer and remaining aligned to God's will, word, and way.


In scripture, David checked himself and exercised self control. King David led God's chosen people and maintained self-control when the Amalekites burned and made a raid on the Negev and on Ziklag,  and took captive the women, daughters, and sons of David’s men and David’s wives. 

David was the leader and witnessed the distress, pain, and bitterness of his pupils. David maintained self-control when the very ones he guided spoke of stoning him. Although David was going through a hard time of disappointment and distress , he had to lead, and exhibit self-control to properly instruct God's people.


David boldly checked himself by encouraging and strengthening himself in the LORD. David sought God’s will on how to handle the troubling situation that not only affected him individually but his pupils collectively. David led by maintaining God-honoring self-control which involved purposefully seeking God first and adhering to God’s plan for triumph, restoration, breakthrough, and deliverance. 

By maintaining self-control, tenacity, and faith in the promises of God, David was able to look beyond his emotions and focus on effectively leading those God placed in his care. 

It’s understandable to be disappointed with what’s going wrong in one’s life but taking one’s hurt, pain, and disappointment out on others in a negative way won’t resolve anything. Surrendering our cares to God is everything. 

It doesn’t take much effort to berate or belittle someone because of financial setbacks, family problems, or personal frustrations but exhibiting God-honoring self-control is intentional and the key to moving in the right direction that pleases God and produces God-honoring fruit.  

Be encouraged and continue to look to God when the wrong things occur because God will lead you in His ways and His reward for you is great. 

An encouraging scripture I would like to leave you with is found in Romans 12:12

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

Peace & God Bless! Dr. Kennetra A. Bryant

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